The Five Languages of Not Screwing Things Up With Your Clients
If you haven’t picked up your copy of The 5 Love Languages, don’t bother. The marketing geniuses behind the book actually put the bulk of the information online. While the “experts” responsible for this relationship guide may not be sales gurus, they do bring up some interesting points about the way we interact with people – ideas that extend beyond the romantic and could potentially affect the way we deal with clients. Ding ding ding! That was your brain telling you to listen up.
The 5 Love Languages explains that there are five different types of people who require different types of attention and affection to feel loved. Likewise, these people often show affection in the same manner. The trick is to figure out what your “love language” is and what “love language” your partner is speaking so that you can provide the right kind of attention and ask for what you need in return. The five languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. You get the idea.
But, while your clients probably don’t desire your physical touch (and really, if they do you should probably avoid it), they do need to feel like a priority in your work life, and it’s up to you to figure out how to show them.
Consider the following:
Communication. You may prefer to share information via email, text message or carrier pigeon, and if you’re lucky, you and your client are on the same page. Or are you? Even though you may view it as in interruption, a phone call can be way more effective than the written word, and the results are immediate. No back and forth, no waiting. Sometimes a hand-written note can show you care more than a quick email. The point is, whatever they like, do it. It’s not about how YOU like to receive communication – it’s about them – and your decisions should revolve around more than your personal preference.
Work. Sometimes people want you to do what they ask you and stop bugging them already. More commonly, your clients will want you to come up with ideas and provide unsolicited assistance with various projects. You know how your parents always said, “I really wish I didn’t have to ask”? This time, instead of making your bed, you’re making your clients happy by operating on their terms and giving them what they need to see value in your services.
Meetings. Your face-to-face time with your clients is critical, but each one sees the opportunity in a different light. Perhaps one of your clients is a chatty Cathy who likes to meet up with you for cocktails. Another may prefer 20-minute conversations with not so much as a comment on the weather. These are two different types of clients and should be treated separately but equally. Clear your schedule for an evening with Cathy and have an organized agenda prepared for Speedy Gonzales. Whatever you do, show them that you respect their needs and attitudes and have planned accordingly.
Like we said, these concepts can be applied to just about any relationship with any person – your grandma, your best friend, your girlfriend, your employee and of course, your clients. Although you can hope that everyone on that list considers your wants and needs, the clients are the exception. After all, they are paying you (hopefully) to be around, and those other guys aren’t (again, hopefully). We definitely recommend perusing the 5 Love Languages website, hokey as it may be because there really is a lot to learn (the section on apologies is also pretty useful).