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Time by any other name

It's already "next March"

Somehow it’s March already and yet I feel like I haven’t been able to process last march. 

We joke about it often but lately I’ve been really asking myself “What it time?” It’s hard to process the answer to that when things have meld together, the distinction of the weekend has been muddied by the amplification of the Sunday scaries, the anxiety we feel about the tasks at hand for the week ahead. For a lot of us who are new to working from home over the last year, the Sunday scaries have turned into the Saturday “let me just try to get ahead” work block or the restless early Monday mornings. 

In a culture that increasingly measures us by our earnings and our ability to check off lists, we get pushed into the direction of being always-on. That battery does not get to fully recharge, rewarded for always thinking about what’s next, seeing peak productivity and over optimization as the key to living our best lives. 

But are we present? Let’s take 5 seconds to think about that last time we were fully present in a moment. 

That’s what work life balance is for, right? I suggest that we challenge the concept of work life balance, especially in today’s environment. It implies that we should allocate half our time to one while we wait the other half to arrive, setting the two against each other as opposites, ultimately leading us to lean more towards one than the other. 

In order for us to reset what time means in our life and how we use it, we have to reimagine. Reimagine our boundaries, remember that rest is our birthright, reinvent the space that allows us to become better creatives and makes room for experiences that bring our unique perspectives to the table. 

Instead of seeing time as the two halves of work or life, what if our perspective changed to include play, community, spirituality,  or more?

Pushing all the wonderful things that shape our identities in one half or the other is not how I choose to live my time. Being booked and busy will no longer a symbol of pride, the life portion of work life is not just “spare time”. My time has become increasingly important to me as I prioritize wellness and taking better care of myself. As I work to center myself fully in my life and as I unpack the guilt I sometimes feel for doing so.

How can I radically shape my definition of productivity, wellness and time so that our relationships to self, health, wealth, family, community, are better for it? For me, that means playing Uno online with friends (and being vicious with that Draw Four card), it means riding the bike trail in my new neighborhood. It means FINISHING the books on my bookshelf. It means watching reruns of Martin and reciting the words of each episode word by word. It means finding ways to safely support my community through volunteering. It means setting and communicating boundaries and keeping to them, while respecting others.

Because as Annie Dillard says “how we spend our days, is of course, how we spend our lives”

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